We are what we believe to be

This is the wedding season in Kuching! The interesting thing when you go to Chinese weddings is that you get to sit with different people and you can never predict where the conversation leads you.

Last night, I met a very nice young man, A fellow lawyer, single and available. I was telling him that our town lacks social activities where young people, men or women can interact socially. Yeah, sure they can meet up in a pub and hooha a bit, but that's hardly the place where one can conduct some real exchange of ideas. Then I was telling him, surprisingly, there are pockets of friends who are taking up some out of the ordinary activities/sports eg kayaking, mountain climbing, para-gliding, flying light aircrafts, building Churches.. here in Kuching!

The thing is we should not limit ourselves - just go for it.

Then we got to talk about the concept of 'we are what we believe to be'. I'm surprised, the guy knew about the concept and using that philosophy to start a new career path. I felt encouraged by this young man and admired him for taking the bold step to move forward in life. Well done and keep it up.

I was also reminded about a friend - who's in her early 60s, divorced long ago, independent & spirited professional lady. She met a long lost friend who came back from US for vacation. they got on well together and they wanted to give it a try to see if they could be life partners. She went over to the US just before X'mas. X'mas eve, she asked him where would they go for X'mas eve dinner? He said just to the local Chinese cafe, then she should go to her own church and he to his! She was disappointed, but since she is a guest there what can she say. Well her service ended at 11pm and she went a hotel nearby to wait for her 'boyfriend' and sat there by herself until 2am when he finally showed up. That was the last straw - she couldn't even bring herself to say Merry Christmas!!! So decided there and then that this is definitely NOT the guy for her.

I consoled her - at least you found out early or it would have been worse!

So to cheer herself, she took the opportunity to tour Canada and looked up an old friend. He had lost his wife few years before. How strange how things worked out - it turned out that they struck a great friendship and enjoy each others company very much.

When I saw her, she was radiant - I thought she had plastic surgery! I am so happy for her that at least she was gutsy enough to take a chance for happiness.

So all you out there, there is someone somewhere who is your soul-mate. It's just happen when you least expect it. 

We are what we believe to be.